What I have to say may shock some of you!
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I know some of you came here expecting to finally hear my side of the story, eager to get the inside scoop or the "tea". But I’m sorry to disappoint you. Anyone who hasn’t had the respect to approach me directly before now, to ask me my truth, isn’t here out of concern or genuine interest—they’re here for the drama. And frankly, I’m better than that. I’m better than petty tit-for-tat exchanges, and I refuse to reduce myself to their level just to satisfy the curiosity of those who thrive on conflict and chaos.
The Temptation to Speak Out
Now, dont get me wrong, 3 years of being harrassed and stalked and trash talked, made the villan or the scapegoat by the same people over and over again, I've been tempted, more times than I care to admit to spill my guts and show you all everything. Don't judge me, I know we’ve all been there—we've been hurt, betrayed, or wronged in some way that leaves us burning with the desire to set the record straight and of course there’s a certain satisfaction in imagining the looks on their faces when the truth comes out, when the world finally sees them for who they really are. But I’ve come to realise that giving in to this temptation on an app like Tiktok would only drag me down to their level. It would mean playing the same game they do, and I refuse to be a part of that. I'm better than that.
Now, of course, it’s frustrating to hear them say, “I’m just telling my side of the story,” knowing full well that no one has heard mine. They’ve mastered the art of selective storytelling, crafting a narrative that suits their agenda while conveniently leaving out the parts that don’t, or even creating a narrative or story where there wasn't one. And then there are the blind followers who hang on their every word, chanting, “I’ve seen the screenshots,” as if that’s all the proof they need. But have they really seen the whole story? Have they questioned what’s been left out, or are they content with the version they’ve been fed? Because I can tell you that those that have seen the whole story, without selective editing, see the truth.
But, being the bigger person means resisting the urge to retaliate publically. It’s about knowing that you have the power to speak out, to expose the truth, but choosing not to. This isn’t about weakness or fear—it’s about strength. It takes real courage to hold your tongue when you know you could so easily strike back. It’s a conscious decision to rise above the noise and focus on what truly matters.
The Weight of Secrets
Holding onto these secrets is no easy task, especially when those secrets will clear my name but cause harm to others if revealed. There’s a certain power in knowing that you could alter someone’s life with a single revelation, but there’s also a great responsibility that comes with that power. I could spill the beans, lay everything out for the world to see, but I choose not to. Not because I’m afraid, but because I know that doing so would only perpetuate the cycle of negativity and hurt, its why, despite what you have been "told", I've kept silent on everything for the past 12 months and focused on goo quality content and growing my business.
Keeping secrets can feel like carrying a heavy burden, but it’s also a testament to your character. It shows that you are capable of exercising restraint, of choosing the high road even when the low road is calling your name. In a world that seems to thrive on scandal and gossip, holding onto your secrets is a way of maintaining your integrity. It’s a way of saying, “I’m better than this.”
Rising Above the Drama
It’s easy to get caught up in the drama, especially when it seems like everyone around you is feeding into it. People love to dwell on the past, to nurse old wounds and keep them fresh. They hold onto grudges as if they’re the only thing keeping them afloat, and they drag others into their misery. But I’ve made the decision to rise above all of that. I’m not interested in reliving old battles or rehashing past conflicts. I’ve moved on, and I’m focused on what lies ahead.
Rising above the drama doesn’t mean pretending that nothing happened. It doesn’t mean ignoring the pain or pretending that it didn’t affect you. It’s about recognising that the past doesn’t define you. It’s about understanding that holding onto anger and resentment only holds you back. By choosing to let go, I’ve freed myself from the chains of the past. I’ve allowed myself to grow, to evolve, and to become the person I’m meant to be.
And while others continue to stir the pot, claiming they’ve “seen the screenshots” without actually knowing the full context, I choose not to participate in their games. Their words may sway those who are easily influenced, but I know the truth. I know the power of keeping certain things to myself, and I won’t be drawn into their toxic cycle just to satisfy the curiosity of others.
The Strength in Restraint
Being the bigger person isn’t about being a pushover. It doesn’t mean that you allow others to walk all over you or take advantage of your kindness. On the contrary, it takes a tremendous amount of strength to remain calm and composed in the face of provocation. It’s about standing your ground with grace, knowing that you have the power to retaliate but choosing not to.
Holding onto secrets is a form of restraint that requires immense self-control. It’s about understanding that just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. It’s easy to lash out when you’re hurt, but it takes real strength to keep your emotions in check and act with integrity. There’s a quiet power in knowing that you could cause a stir, but choosing instead to maintain your dignity and keep the secrets to yourself.
Moving Forward with Grace
The choice to be the bigger person isn’t always an easy one, but it’s a choice that leads to true freedom. By letting go of the past and refusing to engage in the drama, I’ve taken control of my life. I’m no longer a victim of circumstance—I’m the master of my own destiny.
Moving forward with grace means focusing on what really matters. It means directing your energy towards your goals, your happiness, and your future. I’ve let go of the need to prove myself to those who are still stuck in the past. I don’t need their validation, and I don’t need to justify my actions. I know who I am, and I’m proud of the person I’ve become.
The Benefits of Rising Above
There are countless benefits to choosing the high road. For one, it allows you to maintain your self-respect and integrity. You can look in the mirror and know that you acted with honour, even when it would have been easier to lash out. This sense of self-respect is invaluable and can help you navigate life’s challenges with confidence.
Being the bigger person also helps you build stronger, more positive relationships. People are naturally drawn to those who radiate positivity and refuse to engage in drama. By letting go of the past and focusing on the future, you create space for healthy, supportive relationships to flourish.
Finally, choosing to rise above allows you to focus on what truly matters in life. Instead of wasting your energy on old grudges and unresolved conflicts, you can channel it into your dreams and aspirations. You can build the life you want, free from the weight of the past.
Now, don't get it twisted, I’m still open to answering any questions and sharing the whole story, both the good and the bad. Transparency has always been important to me, and I believe in owning my truth and I have never denied being part of a toxic group of people and fully participating in it, but let it be known: if you’ve already made your judgment based on lies and half-truths without coming to me first, the bridge between us is burned. You no longer exist in my world, and I have no interest in rebuilding what you’ve chosen to destroy with baseless assumptions.
I’ve apologised for the things I did do—for my part in situations where I was complicit, for the mistakes I made, and for any hurt I may have caused. I believe in taking responsibility for my actions and owning up to where I went wrong. But let me be clear: I will never apologise for lies. Apologising for something that isn’t true is just another way of letting those who spread falsehoods control the narrative, and I refuse to give them that power. My apologies are reserved for the truth, not for the fabrications that others have spun to suit their agendas.